If there’s one thing we all have in common it’s that we want to feel happy; and on the other side of that coin, we want to avoid hurting. Yet we consistently put ourselves in situations that set us up for pain.
We pin our happiness to people, circumstances, and things and hold onto them for dear life. We stress about the possibility of losing them when something seems amiss. Then we melt into grief when something changes. We attach to feelings as if they define us, and ironically, not just positive ones. If you’ve wallowed in regret or disappointment for years, it can seem safe and even comforting to suffer.
In trying to hold on to what’s familiar, we limit our ability to experience joy in the present. A moment can’t possibly radiate fully when you’re suffocating it in fear. When you stop trying to grasp, own, and control the world around you, you give it the freedom to fulfil you without the power to destroy you. That’s why letting go is so important: letting go is letting happiness in.
It’s no simple undertaking to let go of attachment—not a one-time decision, like pulling off a band-aid. Instead, it’s a day-to-day, moment-to-moment commitment that involves changing the way you experience and interact with everything you instinctively want to grasp.
Learning life lessons the hard way, is something I feel I am getting good at. Learning to be attached yet detached, was something that I was always told to learn and accept, but then again the importance of the same, never really hit me until recently. But then again, life with its plans for me has handed this twist to me, and I take it with my chin up. Like the famous quote from Rocky which basically tries to give you the message that life is going to keep hitting you... You need to get back up and let it know, you can take more.. take it until life accepts that you are a fighter.. I will fight for what I believe.
We pin our happiness to people, circumstances, and things and hold onto them for dear life. We stress about the possibility of losing them when something seems amiss. Then we melt into grief when something changes. We attach to feelings as if they define us, and ironically, not just positive ones. If you’ve wallowed in regret or disappointment for years, it can seem safe and even comforting to suffer.
In trying to hold on to what’s familiar, we limit our ability to experience joy in the present. A moment can’t possibly radiate fully when you’re suffocating it in fear. When you stop trying to grasp, own, and control the world around you, you give it the freedom to fulfil you without the power to destroy you. That’s why letting go is so important: letting go is letting happiness in.
It’s no simple undertaking to let go of attachment—not a one-time decision, like pulling off a band-aid. Instead, it’s a day-to-day, moment-to-moment commitment that involves changing the way you experience and interact with everything you instinctively want to grasp.
Learning life lessons the hard way, is something I feel I am getting good at. Learning to be attached yet detached, was something that I was always told to learn and accept, but then again the importance of the same, never really hit me until recently. But then again, life with its plans for me has handed this twist to me, and I take it with my chin up. Like the famous quote from Rocky which basically tries to give you the message that life is going to keep hitting you... You need to get back up and let it know, you can take more.. take it until life accepts that you are a fighter.. I will fight for what I believe.
There is great joy in becoming free. You can focus on what you would lose or how hard it would be, but you forget that the reason you let go is to be opened to more joy. You feel more confident, more peaceful, more joyful. You can take in a big breath, smile, and simply feel good. Sometimes it is not until you taste freedom that you understand how wonderful it really is.
There is a healing that can happen in you, if you so need. If you carry around past wounds, you can be understanding with yourself. Embrace yourself and tell yourself that from now on you will take care of that person in you that was injured.
There is a real and good plan for your life. There can be much more joy and peace and love than what you have experienced so far. Consider that you have a certain purpose for being here and that it is good.
There is a real and good plan for your life. There can be much more joy and peace and love than what you have experienced so far. Consider that you have a certain purpose for being here and that it is good.
Negative, critical thoughts do not make us better at life. They make us feel stuck, weak and unmotivated to move forward. It is choosing to look at things positively that will empower us to do the right things.
In finding the hope that new beginnings are always possible, no matter what, lies the key to being truly attached yet detached from people and things that you feel affect you. We tend to want change to happen right away. But you need to be patient with yourself. If you fall back from time to time, don’t get discouraged. This is a step-by-step journey. Get up and move forward again. You have never lost your prior successes even if you have had a slipup.
The important realisation that dawned upon me this morning while lying in bed, Instead of looking at this time as a negative thing, look at the beauty of it. Every challenge we face is only a wonderful opportunity for us to discover the life we were intended to have. Just as a caterpillar has to struggle before it becomes a butterfly, we often are faced with a similar process toward transformation. I look forward to the challenge, to learn and grow with it, and am curious to see where life leads me with this.
The important realisation that dawned upon me this morning while lying in bed, Instead of looking at this time as a negative thing, look at the beauty of it. Every challenge we face is only a wonderful opportunity for us to discover the life we were intended to have. Just as a caterpillar has to struggle before it becomes a butterfly, we often are faced with a similar process toward transformation. I look forward to the challenge, to learn and grow with it, and am curious to see where life leads me with this.
One thing I am sure of, is that I will always cherish the happiness, and leave behind the pain, though it is easier said than done.
I fight my fight, and wish you luck with yours.
I fight my fight, and wish you luck with yours.
